7/13/2019 6:45 a.m.
Well, it’s been a few days since the last post.
The Club: We are here, go ahead.
It’s just so beautiful peaceful this morning.
Take your time.
[just sitting] So, I had written down a list of questions, but first I have a more personal one, before I ask about the great mysteries of life.
As if you are not a mystery yourself ! (laughing)
Yeah, especially to my wife! ( laughing, too) OK, so, the other day we had friends staying with us. I then drove them to the airport for their flight out. And on the drive back home, by myself, I felt so alone. Almost a sense of dread. Typically, I don’t have a problem being by myself, and “loneliness” does not scare me. But in that moment, I felt alone.
Now, I just looked it up. How interesting: “alone” is really “all” and “one.” All-one, as in “completely by oneself.”
So I wanted to ask about the experience. What does it mean?
What did it mean to you?
In that moment it was sort of sad, depressing.
Well, because being with your old friends, you were kind of more integrated in a relationship. And when they left, it was sad already. It was like “a little death,” where a loved one leaves, and there is a hole opened up. This is not unlike it.
OK, so it was also a sort of isolation?
Oh, absolutely. Before [you were] integrated, now isolated. Now, what does “isolated” mean?
It is related to “island.” An island onto itself.
OK, but an island is still only an island within a context, the ocean around it.
Yes, a figure and a ground. The island stands out.
Right, so at that moment you were still integrated within life, still connected in the universal organism, but you only perceived yourself: You saw yourself only as an entity alone, and nothing else. That’s what “alone” means, you see? “All-one.” You only see yourself and nothing else. There is only you at the moment.
You do not see yourself and your connections to all, but only you.
So you can already sense what the fix is, right?
To open your perception towards what is beyond, and how you are an integral part within a greater whole.
Correct. You see, you really are never alone. “All-one.” Yes, sure, you can be without human communication, and son on, but if you open your awareness, you see that you are never an isolated entity. That’s the whole gist of all these talks, to show that nothing is ever a self-sustaining entity. Basic Buddhism, you may say. You are always made up of parts, and you, as a part, are a “part” of something greater.
So “alone” can only happen if you set your focus on only “yourself.” And then an emotion comes up. An emotional reaction to that singular focus.
Now, normally, you are OK with that. But in that moment there was a very start contrast -- to a more chatty, communicative environment [with your friends]. Like we said, it was like “a little death.” And in that contrast, you realized your self more, your “aloneness,” and then these emotions came up.
But now, you are OK again. And the fix is to open up your perception, and realize you are never really “alone.” You just may miss the communication part. But that can maybe be replaced through other means.
How does this help other people, say, older folks who are all alone? Their partner dies, and so on.
Well, everybody is different. For an extrovert, it may be harder than for an introvert. And some people may be so dependent on external stimulation, conversations, that this may be hard to work with. So for some, there may have to be human contact, or a pet, something alive. It is different for each person. For you, you would need very little like that, do you?
Well, I guess, time will tell, as I grow older. But yes, that little talk here, at least, helped me.
OK, let’s top.
Thank you. And I have some questions waiting for you.
We know, looking forward.
Namaste — I bow to you and the Divine in you.
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