I dedicate this site to the memory of my stepdaughter, Heather, who was murdered on Thanksgiving 2017. I want to chronicle some of the events and spiritual insights that happened. It is my hope that this may help some other souls who stumble upon this site. Maybe some good can come off this after all (read more here).  ~ May 2018

How to Resolve Frustration

How to overcome frustration -- or better, resolve frustration into nothingness--  so that you can once more choose and manifest a more positive emotion.

Saturday 8/21/2019 8:30 a.m.

Sitting outside, very frustrated about [some contractor for the house] again.  Feeling so much anger, or better, helplessness about this.  […]  Today is such a nice day, yet my inside is so grim.  

I’ll go sit in the sun…  let me tune-in: looking at the spider’s treads glistening in the sunshine… Strange, today I hear lots of birds, why some days it is so silent and today there they are everywhere again…

So, Club,  can we  talk about “frustration?”

The Club: You already know all about it.

In what way?

It’s a limiting emotion, reflecting injury – that’s the original meaning of the word (as you just looked it up before).  If you are injured, you cannot move freely.  If you are frustrated, your mental thoughts cannot move freely. They are restricted by the frustration.  Life cannot flow as easily as it would otherwise.  So a limiting emotion: you know how to deal with this?

ACT: accept, chose, and take action. [I outlined this in the “Steps of Essence: How to live live well and authentically.”]

That’s one way.  First you should work on the accept part, that is to resolve the emotion.  Right now, it constraints you: a mental attractor around which your inner life is centered.  Try to resolve it.

Yes, resolve:  re+solver, to make it go into “nothingness” again, like a lump of clay can be [dis]solved in water.

The figure solves into the ground. So you need to be clear on the ground again.  Instead of focusing on the figure, the frustration or any limiting thought, focus on the background [against which it stands apart].

Hmm., but is the background not also the context that sets the emotion?

ONE possible context. You see?!  If you change the background context, the foreground context, the “text” which in this case is the frustration, HAS to change.  You remember?

And thereby create a context switch!  So how do I do it?

You had it before:

  1. First you accept. That can be done in a number of ways, you wrote about it [in the “Steps of Essence.”]  Stilling the mind is a good way.
  2. Then choose a positive emotion, or context, you would like to bring out.
  3. Then you act: like an actor does in method acting, you bring out that emotion by concentrating on the context(s) of how it was in the past when you felt like it. Pick a touchstone moment that represents it [the positive emotion], and bring it into memory.

Yeah, I remember.  But part of this frustration is that this is not done and over with, but on Monday I have to deal with the same shit again.

Well, here you make a judgment in that it strongly flavors the whole thing as negative already.   
Remember:  there is no good or bad but thinking makes it so.  Here your thinking flavors it so negatively.
If you just treat it as is, as just something that has to be done, like eating your breakfast or whatever, then it just IS.  No bad thing about it.

That’s a very cognitive approach.

Yes and no. Insights are a good way to proceed.  You already knew all this, so it’s just a reminder.  So pick your positive emotion which you want to generate or manifest, then change or pull it into the context that will manifest it.

OK, enjoyment! Today could be an awesome day if I don’t keep myself from letting it be that way.

Good. Now that’s your choice [as to how you would like it to be].  Now think of situations that you once really fully enjoyed, and pull those memories fully into the present. The total situation, including the sensory parts, what it smelled, tasted, felt like.  That is the context!  Now bring that alive and stay in that feeling.

Well, just talking about this makes me feel better.

Because you enjoy this process here, and it keeps your mind occupied – in a different context!  Now just stay here [in this mental state], and enjoy the rest of the day.  And whatever comes [on Monday], comes, just as life does. Today, just deal with it from the context of joy and enjoyment.

Thank you, well put. Until the next time.

PS: Added afterwards: I did the process and it worked,  I went out and rocked this day!

Namaste — I bow to you and the Divine in you.
~Hanns

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