Yesterday morning, I got an insight that I should write on love. I remembered reading there are two kinds of love: passionate and companionate (explained below). And I wondered: aren’t there other types? A quick google search revealed that, for example, the ancient Greek believed there are 8 type of love:
Passionate (Eros), friends (Phila), family (Storge), long term (Pragma), playful (Ludus), obsessive (Mania), self love (Philautia), universal (Agape).
That theme, with slight variations, is then restated infinitely on the internet. As if it was a fact!
And I had a very strong adverse reaction to it: “What a bunch of crock!” So last night, I set my intention to have a dialogue on love. I did not think more about it, as to not influence the outcome.
The dialogue that follows states a very different view on love: there is only ONE love. I invite you to read a different perspective on love.
5/19/2019 6:15 a.m.
Hanns (H): Sitting outside. Being cold. [a wet and cold morning, drizzle, clouds.] Birds singing nonetheless.
Thinking on love. Been reading on it yesterday. That’s what I want to talk about: Love. “Love is primary.” But what love? What kind of love?
So me pull me in.
The Club beyond Time and Space (TCB): We are here. [Answer came right away].
See that sentence there above? “Birds singing nonetheless.”
That is love.
That is real love. What you have been reading about is all just a flavor of the real thing.
H: Exactly, and it really bothered me.
TCB: State it!
H: Well, I started reading about this theory of passionate vs companionate love, of how, over time, passionate diminishes and companionate increases.
TCB: Draw the diagram.
[insert picture, a chart– still to do ]
H: OK, and then I thought: What about universal love? So I read on the internet and they all talk about, OK, somewhere between 5 and 9 different kinds of love, like platonic, and so on.
And it did not gel.
TCG: Exactly. Why?
H: Because they seem to break up something whole into different things again. Like companionate and passionate love are two different things.
And it bothered me.
So now I am interested to hear what you have to say.
And also feeling anxious because nothing may come.
TCB: OK, then what have we taught you?
H: Relax, trust, be playful, conjure with focus.
TCB: So do that – on love.
[ concentrating – a bird nearby is chirping real loud. Tuning in ]
TCB: So, these birds? Why do you think they chirp in the morning?
Consciousness is awakening.
And what did we say before on this: consciousness recognizes itself in the other.
Love binds. Unites.
Consciousness recognizes itself as itself, and that feeling is love.
H: Am I making this up?
TCB: Go on. [As in, let's just go on.] So it all comes down to consciousness.
And there really is only one consciousness. Underline that one. That is important.
That one consciousness presses itself out into all life and matter. That is the universal heartbeat. And then consciousness, the same consciousness, becomes local. Localized. But still the same
So through this there is separation. Perceived separation.
Yet at the base, consciousness knows it is one.
And recognizes that.
And when it does, it loves.
Because it yearns to be united.
That is what love is.
It is like a strong magnet.
Now, stay with magnet. A magnet has poles. 2 poles. Binary. Because there is flow, a field that spins:
[insert image of a magnet with its field -- still to do.]
That is the whole process. Through churning, the same thing separates, repels.
Through being the same, while separated, it attracts.
It’s a never ending process.
Love is that expression of reuniting, of unity that we can feel.
Now, the so called flavors –friendship, companionate, passionate – these are just that, flavors.
Because at one end, hormones come into play, and you get a sort of biological reaction, and get deep lust, attraction, and so on.
So you see, it is really the same thing – love – but in different contexts.
It is only the context that changes. Ultimately it is all love: the same love: universal, unconditional love for the other, who is the same as you, and that is recognized.
H: I can see that so clearly.
TCB: And then, for example, platonic love is seeing that love in the context of friendship. The 3D being interprets itself into that context and you feel love as platonic. No hormones involved.
Companionate love is seeing that context in a mutual relationship, where deep care [underlined] has become the focus. Mutual care. And seeing this through that context, love is felt as companionate.
And passionate love, well, you know all too well about that. Hormones, lust, fire, burning. It is all in there. But burns itself out more quickly. Except in you [laughter], “Herr” fire sign, you can still kindle it easily after 30 years.
H: Well yeah, and Miss Water Sign, she has her ways of putting out that fire [laughter].
TCG: Fire and Water. And Air. Different elements, but still all the same.
Both H and TCB: [laughing] He, he.
H: Oh, so this was very helpful.
TCB: Yes. And you had to trust yourself. [ to get this dialogue ]
TRUST – and in a relationship trust is very important. To trust your partner and she trusts you.
That is really the key concept in companionate love. Trusting the other. And through this: caring. While still being the context [underlined] of passion.
This is how the contexts all differ, for example to a friend, then there is no passion.
So these theories of love have it right – to some extent. But they see these loves as different things.
It is not: it is the same love – universal love for the other – just seen, interpreted, lived…
… in different >perceived< context.
The perception sets the context.
And the context sets the perception.
That is another story.
H: OK. I get it.
TCB: What? Repeat?
H: Universal love. Unity.
An undivided love. - like the field of a magnet.
TCB: Magnet being only an analogy.
OK. Enough for today?
H: I think so.
TCB: OK. The go ROCK this day.
Love?! [ as in goodbye]
TCB: Remember, we are always here.
And we can’t be mad at you. Because we are you.
And love you.
H: Yes, that was that earlier thought. I picked that up.
[ Earlier I had been thinking about how I have not typed up a key insight form about a month ago, and if TCB would hold that against me? The answer came back as stated here. ]
TCB: It had to be stated. Love and end.
Namaste — I bow to you and the Divine in you.
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