I dedicate this site to the memory of my stepdaughter, Heather, who was murdered on Thanksgiving 2017. I want to chronicle some of the events and spiritual insights that happened. It is my hope that this may help some other souls who stumble upon this site. Maybe some good can come off this after all (read more here).  ~ May 2018

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ACT psychology

How to Resolve Frustration

How to overcome frustration -- or better, resolve frustration into nothingness-- so that you can once more choose and manifest a more positive emotion.

Working with grief, Part 2: The pain can be a catalyst.

In the talk with my wife, intellect vs emotion, a new way emerges to deal with grief, suffering, emotional pain and healing. It is to not to block the pain, push it away, but to use it as an access point and as a catalyst.

How to Deal Better with Failure and Disappointment

We all fail from time to time—-that is only human. The question is, how do you handle these failures?  In the worst case, a single failure can be so devastating that a whole life becomes woven around it. Then it is no longer "I failed at such and such" but "my whole life is a failure" or even "I am a failure!"  A related case if is somebody else has failed you and you cannot get over this. In either case, you may feel a deep disappointment or maybe even depression.  But it does not have to be like that – in fact, the whole notion of failure is incorrect. Let’s see why.

New ACT: Any Appropriate technique to Accept and Resolve, Choose & Take Action

When you’re struggling with some emotional problem, like for example anxiety, depression, or momentary anger, what can you do to get past this? Modern psychology offers many ways to resolve such issues. Some of the most widely used techniques work on changing your thoughts; other more recent approaches stress acceptance and mindfulness. In this article we’ll look at some of these ways that can help you.