I dedicate this site to the memory of my stepdaughter, Heather, who was murdered on Thanksgiving 2017. I want to chronicle some of the events and spiritual insights that happened. It is my hope that this may help some other souls who stumble upon this site. Maybe some good can come off this after all (read more here). ~ May 2018
Be True, Be Happy
One of the keys to success and happiness is to always reinforce the good and play down the bad. Psychologists have long shown that you can use this to "shape" human behavior. But if you want to also be happier, there is little bit more to it.
Life expresses itself in so many wonderful ways – you only have to choose to see this. This is a truly profound insight, which can make a great difference in your life. In my book, "Be True, Be Happy: Simple Secrets for a Happy and Meaningful Life," I reveal various secrets for finding happiness. One of the foremost is that you can simply choose to be happy. The statement above expresses that same truth.
One of the biggest issues that often keeps us from being happy is money, or rather, the lack of it. We often believe that "money equals happiness." But is that really so? In my book, "Be True, Be Happy: Simple Secrets for a Happy and Meaningful Life," I take a critical look at this issue and the findings may surprise you.
My newest book is based on the very simple idea that if you find what makes you intrinsically joyful and then learn to align your life toward it, you will be happy. Thus the title "Be True, Be Happy: Simple Secrets for a Happy and Meaningful Life." Happiness can be right there if you only allow it to be and cultivate the right things and actions in your life. To help with this, I present various little "Happiness Secrets" in the book. One such secret is to know "The Key to Happiness."
What really is a miracle? If miracles were more common, would we still call them miracles? As I explain in “The Steps of Essence,” the words miracle and mirage are related and they imply feeling a sense of wonder. So ask yourself: what instills a real sense of wonderment in you? Is it something grand like Jesus walking on water? Or how about a woman with an injured spinal cord who was told by the doctors that she would never walk again, and yet does. Is that a miracle? What about our ability to feel love?
We all fail from time to time—-that is only human. The question is, how do you handle these failures? In the worst case, a single failure can be so devastating that a whole life becomes woven around it. Then it is no longer "I failed at such and such" but "my whole life is a failure" or even "I am a failure!" A related case if is somebody else has failed you and you cannot get over this. In either case, you may feel a deep disappointment or maybe even depression. But it does not have to be like that – in fact, the whole notion of failure is incorrect. Let’s see why.
In The Steps of Essence I encourage people to dream big and to be great. In fact, I believe we all are great beings already--just by being born and being unique. But greatness is not enough; instead it is very much about how you are being great about your life: you can either brag about your greatness, or be humble about it. Each way will make a great difference to your own life and the lives of others.