I dedicate this site to the memory of my stepdaughter, Heather, who was murdered on Thanksgiving 2017. I want to chronicle some of the events and spiritual insights that happened. It is my hope that this may help some other souls who stumble upon this site. Maybe some good can come off this after all (read more here).  ~ May 2018

acting authentic

Working with grief, Part 2: The pain can be a catalyst.

In the talk with my wife, intellect vs emotion, a new way emerges to deal with grief, suffering, emotional pain and healing. It is to not to block the pain, push it away, but to use it as an access point and as a catalyst.

From Lady Gaga to you: the masks we wear

Did you know that all of us wear masks and costumes in our daily lives as well as part of our own “act”? These are tied to the roles we play in life, and are called “personas” which literally means “the masks we wear.” With each persona, we put on a certain behavior and costume in an effort to show their “best face.”

You are a superhero of life

You are a superhero. Yes, it’s true – and you don’t have to wear a cape or a mask to be one. You already are, just by being you. For once upon a time, you took the plunge into life. At the moment of your conception there were a thousand other potential versions of you vying for this life, that is, a thousand male seeds trying to merge with that one female ovum. Each other combination would have produced a different biological “you.” But only YOU made it. Only you, uniquely you, took the plunge into life. That’s the jump of a hero. You already are a life hero!

How to Deal Better with Failure and Disappointment

We all fail from time to time—-that is only human. The question is, how do you handle these failures?  In the worst case, a single failure can be so devastating that a whole life becomes woven around it. Then it is no longer "I failed at such and such" but "my whole life is a failure" or even "I am a failure!"  A related case if is somebody else has failed you and you cannot get over this. In either case, you may feel a deep disappointment or maybe even depression.  But it does not have to be like that – in fact, the whole notion of failure is incorrect. Let’s see why.

New ACT: Any Appropriate technique to Accept and Resolve, Choose & Take Action

When you’re struggling with some emotional problem, like for example anxiety, depression, or momentary anger, what can you do to get past this? Modern psychology offers many ways to resolve such issues. Some of the most widely used techniques work on changing your thoughts; other more recent approaches stress acceptance and mindfulness. In this article we’ll look at some of these ways that can help you.

Philosophical thoughts on The Steps of Essence

The whole point of my book The Steps of Essence is to make philosophy accessible to a wider audience, and I don’t want to turn off anybody who is not quite as fluent in philosophy by posting something overly abstruse. The book makes a very conscious effort to stay clear of such heavy language while still presenting the concepts in more accessible form. Warning: serious philosophy lingo in this post Having stated this disclaimer, somebody recently posted this great question to me, which deserves a true philosophical answer, so here we go – philosopher mode on. Warning: serious philosophy lingo below.