I dedicate this site to the memory of my stepdaughter, Heather, who was murdered on Thanksgiving 2017. I want to chronicle some of the events and spiritual insights that happened. It is my hope that this may help some other souls who stumble upon this site. Maybe some good can come off this after all (read more here).  ~ May 2018



Excellence literally means “to raise up” or “elevate.” Someone who is excellent at doing something is so because his or her actions stand our high above the rest.

That’s why, when you want to be excellent at something, your actions must “stand out from the rest” -- and not just by being different, or bad, or excessive, but being “better.”

Don’t just be ordinary – be extraordinary.

Don’t just be plain, stand out,be excellent:

At life
     ...and at whatever you are passionate about.

Happiness Secret: Choosing to See the Wonders of Life

Life expresses itself in so many wonderful ways – you only have to choose to see this. This is a truly profound insight, which can make a great difference in your life. In my book, "Be True, Be Happy: Simple Secrets for a Happy and Meaningful Life," I reveal various secrets for finding happiness. One of the foremost is that you can simply choose to be happy. The statement above expresses that same truth.

How to Deal Better with Failure and Disappointment

We all fail from time to time—-that is only human. The question is, how do you handle these failures?  In the worst case, a single failure can be so devastating that a whole life becomes woven around it. Then it is no longer "I failed at such and such" but "my whole life is a failure" or even "I am a failure!"  A related case if is somebody else has failed you and you cannot get over this. In either case, you may feel a deep disappointment or maybe even depression.  But it does not have to be like that – in fact, the whole notion of failure is incorrect. Let’s see why.

Philosophical thoughts on The Steps of Essence

The whole point of my book The Steps of Essence is to make philosophy accessible to a wider audience, and I don’t want to turn off anybody who is not quite as fluent in philosophy by posting something overly abstruse. The book makes a very conscious effort to stay clear of such heavy language while still presenting the concepts in more accessible form. Warning: serious philosophy lingo in this post Having stated this disclaimer, somebody recently posted this great question to me, which deserves a true philosophical answer, so here we go – philosopher mode on. Warning: serious philosophy lingo below.